LET GO OF THESE 5 DANGEROUS THOUGHTS
We constantly push ourselves towards being the better versions of ourselves. And I’m not saying that discovering your true self and changing is bad. Obviously, it feels good. But there is a hidden danger in this process- thinking that you cannot feel happy until you achieve your goals.
The society and social media have a high influence on shaping our goals. It's sometimes hard to distinguish what was initially our own desire and what we were told to wish for. That's how we find ourselves in a cluster of unrealistic expectations and unachievable goals. With a combination of 'I'll feel happy only once I...' mindset, they can give a rough time full of self- disappointment, anxiety and complexes.
These are the thoughts that we have most often: I must be beautiful, be popular, be an example to others, own a lot of things, travel. That's what we see celebrities do. That's what books about success tell us to do. That's what advertisements say the meaning of life is. The problem is that these things have no ending point and therefore cannot make anyone magically feel fulfilled one day. We see a picture, an 'inspiration', not a real life. There is no superhuman that knows a secret to it all and 'being just like him' doesn't lead anywhere.
𝓑𝓮 𝓫𝓮𝓪𝓾𝓽𝓲𝓯𝓾𝓵
Wrong: You have to follow trends and have a good sense of style. You have to be able to do makeup at a professional level. Beautiful equals attractive, everything else doesn't count.
Right: You can have any style that makes you feel confident. Everyone has 'bad days', and there's nothing wrong about it. If everyone looked the same, that wouldn't be interesting.
𝓑𝓮 𝓪𝓷 𝓮𝔁𝓪𝓶𝓹𝓵𝓮 𝓽𝓸 𝓸𝓽𝓱𝓮𝓻𝓼
Wrong: You have to do everything perfectly, have a perfect motivation and never have failures.
Right: Failure is the only way to learn. Be the best you can be today, but strive to improve. Even small things can be very inspirational to others, for example, being polite, admitting your mistakes, being trustworthy and responsible.
𝓑𝓮 𝓹𝓸𝓹𝓾𝓵𝓪𝓻
Wrong: You must have an interesting life is and have many friends.
Right: Having a few or no friends doesn't say anything about you as a person. Going along with the crowd for the sake of acceptance is not worth it. No one can get along with every person, because of different interests and views. If friendship does not work out or feels forced, let it go.
𝓞𝔀𝓷 𝓪 𝓵𝓸𝓽 𝓸𝓯 𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓰𝓼
Wrong: A successful person has a car, own house and the latest gadgets.
Right: Focus on what you have, how these things affect you, and surround yourself with things that make you feel happier. In fact, cluttering the space around can make you even less focused and more anxious.
𝓣𝓻𝓪𝓿𝓮𝓵
Wrong: You have to visit as many countries as you possibly can. If you don't travel, you can't have enough life experience.
Right: Some people like travelling, some don't. It does not make anyone less experienced. Nowadays the number of sources to get new information from is limitless. Travel to places that are interesting to you personally, not just 'trendy' places.
Would you judge your friend or parent using these criteria? Or are you only being harsh on yourself?
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